In 1948, President Harry Truman signed an Executive Order to integrate the military and mandate the equality of treatment/opportunities for Blacks. Unfortunately, desegregation of the military was not complete for several years! All-black Army units persisted well into the Korean War. The last all-Black unit wasn’t disbanded until 1954. In the civilian world, the struggle …
I’m a dreamer. I live for a great idea! Recently, however, my ideas needed a little CPR. If I didn’t get some people to breathe life into my goals quickly, my aspirations would’ve surly died. Yes, they would’ve died and been reincarnated into someone else’s image…with someone’s else’s face. The thought alone, both hurt and frightened me. I …
Yes, the military lifestyle can be stressful, but so can the civilian lifestyle. Thankfully, I’m a silver-lining type of gal and I like to look at the glass as half-full. I’m very aware, however, that there are some women who are knee–or even chest–deep in stress and the glass looks completely empty. These words are …
I love it when my husband returns home, from being in such close quarters with all of those lovely germs! A few days after reuniting with my handsome life-partner, from being on a Naval ship for almost two months, he didn’t do anything besides lie on the couch. Truth be told, he would be stuck to the …
Have you ever heard the infamous phrase, “you knew what you were getting yourself into?” A friend may have said that to you in a pitiful attempt at comforting you or perhaps you have uttered these words to yourself. No matter how you’ve heard those eight words, they couldn’t have possibly provided you with any …
I wonder how many arguments or friendship breakups would occur if people had those SAME conversations face-to-face? No texting, no Facebook, and no interactions on social media at all…What if you had to look that person in the face and converse without having the option to “block,” ignore,” or “delete before reading?” I had a wonderful conversation with another …
There is so much diversity among the wives of service-members. Yes, even among Black Military Wives (B.M.W.)! We can be stationed at the same base, go to the same beauty salon, send our children to the same schools…and yet, we may differ in our beliefs regarding what’s best for our families. There are some employed wives who resent the notion of …
There’s nothing like having healthy, loving, supportive sisterhoods between women, especially Black women, who might find it difficult to meet and bond with others while moving all over the world. In 2009, I was living in an unfamiliar place without family or friends nearby, and I really longed for a support system. After being married to …
As I prepared to celebrate my ten year wedding anniversary this weekend, I excitedly got on the internet to look up some mushy love quotes for military couples. I planned on sharing the images on Facebook, as a tribute to my husband this weekend. Yep–I’m an annoying, hopeless romantic who goes over & beyond to show her man how much he’s …